Just what is everyone's definition of strength?
I'm only slightly curious..due to my own observations.
I usually see two types of people. The first with the attitude and demeanor of being tough, strong and very abrupt with their mouth. The other with the ability to be self controlled, sometimes saying what needs to be said, as lovingly as possible, and,at other times quiet, observant, and they typically know that outward appearances have nothing to do with inner strength.
My goal has to be for the latter affect for myself. No, my peeps, I do not see myself as a super strong lady..nor, do I have the ability to be self controlled..yet. However, I have surrendered my tough girl attitude and have come to a very real realization that people strongly dislike the first type of individual. Most of the time, the person who has all the appearance and toughness to them, people just sort of acknowledge and tip-toe around. So, in essence, no one really wants to deal with this individual, but will flatter them until they can get out of their presence...fast!
Yes, I want to be liked..and you do, too..everyone wants..needs...to feel loved, encouraged, and the strong feeling of going through life with a companion. Read the lyrics of any song..it either tells of lost love, found love, or the anger of having done both!
But, I will not ever compromise my faith over it..ever.
I see examples of strong women everywhere. For my own definition, it would be a woman who faces failure..over and over again, taking responsibility for her actions and not blaming her parents, spouse, friends and everyone else around her for her poor choices. Inevitably, this woman always turns out to be successful..out of the ability to forgive herself..and roll with life.
This person always surrounds herself with people who bring out the best in her, and people she will allow to tell her the absolute truth about herself. I know for a fact that we lie so much to ourselves, we have no idea what's true until we test it out with our actions..and, then we have a grieving period of denial before we accept it..if we can manage to get that far.
I, myself, find it difficult to allow people to get close enough to speak the truth over me, and then I don't ask the heart to heart questions, because I don't trust most people anyways. And, really, you have to be careful about who you put your trust in. It is not that person you keep trying to flatter..by far. In fact, run..if that's the case..you'll save yourself much grief!
Anyways, my rambling is more of a question..what do you consider a person of strength?
Personally, I have a small handful of people that I see have earned that recognition from me. Most of them have gone through a whirlwind of painful situations, yet most onlookers
have no idea..because they "choose" that whatever unfairness life brings (and life is always unfair)they will find their joy..no matter what.
I have a long ways to go..to be the person of strength...but, i'll search my whole life for the wisdom and agility to get there..
I'm only slightly curious..due to my own observations.
I usually see two types of people. The first with the attitude and demeanor of being tough, strong and very abrupt with their mouth. The other with the ability to be self controlled, sometimes saying what needs to be said, as lovingly as possible, and,at other times quiet, observant, and they typically know that outward appearances have nothing to do with inner strength.
My goal has to be for the latter affect for myself. No, my peeps, I do not see myself as a super strong lady..nor, do I have the ability to be self controlled..yet. However, I have surrendered my tough girl attitude and have come to a very real realization that people strongly dislike the first type of individual. Most of the time, the person who has all the appearance and toughness to them, people just sort of acknowledge and tip-toe around. So, in essence, no one really wants to deal with this individual, but will flatter them until they can get out of their presence...fast!
Yes, I want to be liked..and you do, too..everyone wants..needs...to feel loved, encouraged, and the strong feeling of going through life with a companion. Read the lyrics of any song..it either tells of lost love, found love, or the anger of having done both!
But, I will not ever compromise my faith over it..ever.
I see examples of strong women everywhere. For my own definition, it would be a woman who faces failure..over and over again, taking responsibility for her actions and not blaming her parents, spouse, friends and everyone else around her for her poor choices. Inevitably, this woman always turns out to be successful..out of the ability to forgive herself..and roll with life.
This person always surrounds herself with people who bring out the best in her, and people she will allow to tell her the absolute truth about herself. I know for a fact that we lie so much to ourselves, we have no idea what's true until we test it out with our actions..and, then we have a grieving period of denial before we accept it..if we can manage to get that far.
I, myself, find it difficult to allow people to get close enough to speak the truth over me, and then I don't ask the heart to heart questions, because I don't trust most people anyways. And, really, you have to be careful about who you put your trust in. It is not that person you keep trying to flatter..by far. In fact, run..if that's the case..you'll save yourself much grief!
Anyways, my rambling is more of a question..what do you consider a person of strength?
Personally, I have a small handful of people that I see have earned that recognition from me. Most of them have gone through a whirlwind of painful situations, yet most onlookers
have no idea..because they "choose" that whatever unfairness life brings (and life is always unfair)they will find their joy..no matter what.
I have a long ways to go..to be the person of strength...but, i'll search my whole life for the wisdom and agility to get there..
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