Neither Scott nor I know what to say to the mom that tells us that all boys are like Evan and that's just little boys...!
I wish that were true.
It would be true if he didn't have autism. And, I can't explain what the difference is between now and "back when" when they had no such name for it..or they only diagnosed severe cases.
One thing I have learned is that it is a direct affect from the environment. Some moms say shots, but I can't say that, because it was like Evan and I were from two opposite worlds from the get go.
You could say it was me being a new mom..and most would be true..only, my friends would always have a system that eventually worked out with their child whether eating, sleeping, and finding that place of calm..that didn't happen for us until Evan was two. And, then came the severe behavioral issues. And, he got kicked out of a two year old program...in which Scott and I are still getting over the brokenness of. But, it was a push in the right direction to get some help for Evan. So, it may have been a blessing in disguise. Still, I may need a couple of more years of healing to admit it out right.
I can't tell you how devastating it is to want to do things with your child, that other parents do without a thought. Playing catch, taking them anywhere and everywhere on a spontaneous whim. These are things that we have learned will take some time..but, spontaneity may never be that great of an idea.
I can report that as of now, and the age of four, we are finally being given some slack..some room to breath a little and really embrace him..and Olivia. I could tear up about it..and can only thank God and all of my friends who have poured out their prayers for the wonderful little blessings they both are.
We are seeing some major progress with him and have his therapists to thank, and his little
pre-school that really has done an outstanding job at helping him to adjust...I mean
outstanding!!
We now can sit down and try to set some new goals for them this year..and, I am just enjoying the major progress that's happened in just one year..I just want to sit and enjoy it a little while longer..you know!!
And, With Olivia being a toddler..and a pretty tough one at that..she has somehow been an amazing gift for Evan. Something about the daily grind with them both has been a good teacher for Evan. Yes, he irritates her like a big brother would. Yet, I can attest to Miss Olivia to count her little blessings she doesn't have six older brothers that could annoy her...like I had!! Most of you haven't either..you just go on and be thankful..ha, ha..thankful you didn't get tickled severly and chased around the house to terrorize and sometimes get smacked around..like the right's of passage of an older sibling has!!
But, my point is, Olivia has been somewhat of a blessing for Evan...and, I cannot explain it in any other way. I don't expect the same in high school, but I do pray heavily over them that they will always take good care of each other..and be apart of each others lives..in ways that we can't teach..due to our own relationships with our siblings. But, I trust that God will always step into the gap of our own flawed rearing..I cannot imagine doing this without his constant help..and overwhelming grace.
So much more..but, I'll stop myself from going on and on..and, on about it..!!
I wish that were true.
It would be true if he didn't have autism. And, I can't explain what the difference is between now and "back when" when they had no such name for it..or they only diagnosed severe cases.
One thing I have learned is that it is a direct affect from the environment. Some moms say shots, but I can't say that, because it was like Evan and I were from two opposite worlds from the get go.
You could say it was me being a new mom..and most would be true..only, my friends would always have a system that eventually worked out with their child whether eating, sleeping, and finding that place of calm..that didn't happen for us until Evan was two. And, then came the severe behavioral issues. And, he got kicked out of a two year old program...in which Scott and I are still getting over the brokenness of. But, it was a push in the right direction to get some help for Evan. So, it may have been a blessing in disguise. Still, I may need a couple of more years of healing to admit it out right.
I can't tell you how devastating it is to want to do things with your child, that other parents do without a thought. Playing catch, taking them anywhere and everywhere on a spontaneous whim. These are things that we have learned will take some time..but, spontaneity may never be that great of an idea.
I can report that as of now, and the age of four, we are finally being given some slack..some room to breath a little and really embrace him..and Olivia. I could tear up about it..and can only thank God and all of my friends who have poured out their prayers for the wonderful little blessings they both are.
We are seeing some major progress with him and have his therapists to thank, and his little
pre-school that really has done an outstanding job at helping him to adjust...I mean
outstanding!!
We now can sit down and try to set some new goals for them this year..and, I am just enjoying the major progress that's happened in just one year..I just want to sit and enjoy it a little while longer..you know!!
And, With Olivia being a toddler..and a pretty tough one at that..she has somehow been an amazing gift for Evan. Something about the daily grind with them both has been a good teacher for Evan. Yes, he irritates her like a big brother would. Yet, I can attest to Miss Olivia to count her little blessings she doesn't have six older brothers that could annoy her...like I had!! Most of you haven't either..you just go on and be thankful..ha, ha..thankful you didn't get tickled severly and chased around the house to terrorize and sometimes get smacked around..like the right's of passage of an older sibling has!!
But, my point is, Olivia has been somewhat of a blessing for Evan...and, I cannot explain it in any other way. I don't expect the same in high school, but I do pray heavily over them that they will always take good care of each other..and be apart of each others lives..in ways that we can't teach..due to our own relationships with our siblings. But, I trust that God will always step into the gap of our own flawed rearing..I cannot imagine doing this without his constant help..and overwhelming grace.
So much more..but, I'll stop myself from going on and on..and, on about it..!!
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