I am always taken aback when I see people develop great friendships..or just a good mix of great friends..which makes me even more in awe.
I guess we military folks move so often it becomes a strange phenomenon for us to see..or me at least..I can't really speak for anyone else. I have had similiar conversations with some friends, but I sometimes wonder how we can grow deeper with people when we are only in certain places for a few years.
Especially with kids.
And, then there's me, with a kid on the autistic spectrum..
I have had the wonderful opportunity to meet some great moms of kids with autism. Moms who have really helped me feel like I'm not alone. But, then our kids our so different, it sometimes can become a about which kid is more advanced and why.
And, I'm back to where I started..in some strange loop.
I can compound this the fact that I have seriously no problem being alone. I can totally go to a restaurant alone, a movie alone, starbucks alone. Some people can be bothered by this, but I am not. Perhaps this is the reason, perhaps I should always ask someone to go with me.
I do sometimes..but, only after I've worked up enough courage. Seriously the rejection alone is honestly what I fear most. But, that's if I'm being honest..I lie most of the time..lol!!
Rejection.
It's like a dirty word.
I even bet most of you don't ever feel that way.
Why, I declare, does life happen so much easier for everyone else! I say that in my best Scarlet (Gone with the Wind) voice.
I always wonder if I am some sort of freak, or perhaps a "limited edition"..?!!
The answer probably lies in the person answering..! ( And No, you don't have to tell me what you think..!!)
Really, I've moved so many times in the past 11 years, I wonder if I should I be better at this?
Well, when I got here I did tell myself I was not interested in meeting people, or making friends...that it's just too complicated...and with a kid on the spectrum..it's been painful enough for us.
But, of course, in no time, I've managed to make great friends here..and in most the places we've been.
So, in a summation of all this nonsense, I want you to be brave..and know that this is all worth it.
It has been worth making friends with people, even if I've known them for a short time, even if the friendship didn't turn out as planned. It has been priceless, for every friend I have made along the way.
Any of you military moms out there growing weary and feeling like you have already dealt with enough, I encourage you that making a friend or two along the way is worth it.
Don't give up on people so easily either.
I can't tell you how many people have given up on me..but, I can tell you the relationship with those who haven't is almost carved onto my heart.
Those are the friends you hold onto. Those are the ones you cry with, you laugh with and move through life with, and the best are the ones who can admit just how weird they really are...I have loved those the most..it makes me feel better about myself..lol!! ;-)
So, take the time to build a friendship..and can I just put a little word in for those like me. Sometimes, you need to be the brave one to ask another gal out there like me, for coffee, movie..whatever..!
So, enough of my thoughts..I'm being called by my hubby for a brunch upstairs...!!
I guess we military folks move so often it becomes a strange phenomenon for us to see..or me at least..I can't really speak for anyone else. I have had similiar conversations with some friends, but I sometimes wonder how we can grow deeper with people when we are only in certain places for a few years.
Especially with kids.
And, then there's me, with a kid on the autistic spectrum..
I have had the wonderful opportunity to meet some great moms of kids with autism. Moms who have really helped me feel like I'm not alone. But, then our kids our so different, it sometimes can become a about which kid is more advanced and why.
And, I'm back to where I started..in some strange loop.
I can compound this the fact that I have seriously no problem being alone. I can totally go to a restaurant alone, a movie alone, starbucks alone. Some people can be bothered by this, but I am not. Perhaps this is the reason, perhaps I should always ask someone to go with me.
I do sometimes..but, only after I've worked up enough courage. Seriously the rejection alone is honestly what I fear most. But, that's if I'm being honest..I lie most of the time..lol!!
Rejection.
It's like a dirty word.
I even bet most of you don't ever feel that way.
Why, I declare, does life happen so much easier for everyone else! I say that in my best Scarlet (Gone with the Wind) voice.
I always wonder if I am some sort of freak, or perhaps a "limited edition"..?!!
The answer probably lies in the person answering..! ( And No, you don't have to tell me what you think..!!)
Really, I've moved so many times in the past 11 years, I wonder if I should I be better at this?
Well, when I got here I did tell myself I was not interested in meeting people, or making friends...that it's just too complicated...and with a kid on the spectrum..it's been painful enough for us.
But, of course, in no time, I've managed to make great friends here..and in most the places we've been.
So, in a summation of all this nonsense, I want you to be brave..and know that this is all worth it.
It has been worth making friends with people, even if I've known them for a short time, even if the friendship didn't turn out as planned. It has been priceless, for every friend I have made along the way.
Any of you military moms out there growing weary and feeling like you have already dealt with enough, I encourage you that making a friend or two along the way is worth it.
Don't give up on people so easily either.
I can't tell you how many people have given up on me..but, I can tell you the relationship with those who haven't is almost carved onto my heart.
Those are the friends you hold onto. Those are the ones you cry with, you laugh with and move through life with, and the best are the ones who can admit just how weird they really are...I have loved those the most..it makes me feel better about myself..lol!! ;-)
So, take the time to build a friendship..and can I just put a little word in for those like me. Sometimes, you need to be the brave one to ask another gal out there like me, for coffee, movie..whatever..!
So, enough of my thoughts..I'm being called by my hubby for a brunch upstairs...!!
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