Don't be a hole..

Is it just me, or can you also look back into your life and clearly see those who have chosen to not only encourage, but use their very words to change the course of your thoughts and breech your very soul and breathe life into you? Leaving you filled with something unquantifiable when measuring the weight it lifted in your spirits.
On the flip side, there are those empty spots in my soul that feel like huge holes or gaps that I wonder if only..if only...family and friends throughout my life could have filled, but chose not to. And silence counts, too..it can be just as deafening..can't it?!
Sigh...Sticks and stones may break my bones..but..you know now that words or lack there of...aren't just words..they are more powerful because we can auto-repeat them back to ourselves..over and over again. We can take them with us the rest of our lives. Just one person can have a re-occuring role in our minds our entire life on this planet.
Our words matter so much more than we can ever imagine. So, why not use your words to influence and build up the people around you? I mean..just imagine how facebook would look if we all dedicated ourselves to saying kind things to one another? It's not impossible..and definitely..a better challenge to have then no filter whatsoever..No?!

As I sit here writing I can guarantee you that I'm 200% certain there is someone in your life that needs to hear an encouraging word from you. Your family, spouse, friend, kids...they need to hear you speak something meaningful in their lives. Every now and again, I send messages to my husband at work only for him to tell me later a how much that meant to him. My kids seem to hold their heads a bit higher when I speak about who they are over them...telling them they are more than what they see,  how they behave, and what they hear from friends or believe in themselves.
You see friends around you, and you know they are struggling and because you don't understand their struggle, you think you have nothing to give. But, you do. You can remind a person who they are..or what strengths they have that they've forgotten or never noticed.
You might not hear that they even noticed or cared.
There will be no change in their behavior or circumstances.
But, you are starting a course of re-writing a script for them in their heads. And it's a valuable gift that can make or break someones entire day, week or year.
I've been told this after sending a card to someone..they they've held onto those words for a long time.
And I just thought I was sending just a card..!
Go and make life count. Don't ask if they deserve it..don't be scared..just say something nice.
Please don't repeat a quote or bumper sticker, though..you'll not get very far..! Oh..and..you are not Jesus..you cannot reach everyone..but in his example..he was only one man that lead a spark that changed the entire world.
Your kids..your spouse..start there..just don't be a hole..but you can make someone whole..!
:) I know..