I think I might blow a gasket in my brain..
Something has got to be done about the therapy we seek out for Evan.
Particularly, the therapy is all separated, and there isn't much bridged between them.
He sees an ABA therapist everyday, for behavioral and social issues. And, an occupational therapist once a week for working with his fine motor skills, and a different o.t once a week with a group of little boys like him.
He also goes to preschool every morning, four days a week.
Here's my latest..incredibly frustrating event occurrence..
Last week his group O.T decided to tell me, very insensitively, that Evan is very behind on his "cutting" and "writing" skills. I reproached her with the very fact he was seeing an O.T for fine motor skills, and was given the classical answer that once a week isn't enough..I should be working with him at home.
Please understand me, I will wholeheartedly admit there is many, many things I would LOVE to do with Evan at home..and many things would benefit him. And, I have to admit he is not very good at either of the above mentioned.
So here lies the problem.
We had a meeting this past Friday with his school teacher, the autism specialist, the school o.t., the speech therapist, and his ABA therapist, who were not agreeing with the above
mentioned therapist.
I have asked for ideas of things to work with Evan at home anyways.
The ABA therapist have done fine motor skills evaluations with Evan and he does ok..but, by my request will do more with him due to my concern.
I went back this evening and had a chat with the group O.t. And, she's pretty certain Evan is still "extremely behind". Even after giving her the school update.
I then e-mailed his teacher and was re-assured, again, of how well he's doing.
So, I will continually be frustrated..or we'll quit the group therapy and sit around to work on our "cutting" and "writing" skills.
I need to take some ibuprofen...it's too much..
Something has got to be done about the therapy we seek out for Evan.
Particularly, the therapy is all separated, and there isn't much bridged between them.
He sees an ABA therapist everyday, for behavioral and social issues. And, an occupational therapist once a week for working with his fine motor skills, and a different o.t once a week with a group of little boys like him.
He also goes to preschool every morning, four days a week.
Here's my latest..incredibly frustrating event occurrence..
Last week his group O.T decided to tell me, very insensitively, that Evan is very behind on his "cutting" and "writing" skills. I reproached her with the very fact he was seeing an O.T for fine motor skills, and was given the classical answer that once a week isn't enough..I should be working with him at home.
Please understand me, I will wholeheartedly admit there is many, many things I would LOVE to do with Evan at home..and many things would benefit him. And, I have to admit he is not very good at either of the above mentioned.
So here lies the problem.
We had a meeting this past Friday with his school teacher, the autism specialist, the school o.t., the speech therapist, and his ABA therapist, who were not agreeing with the above
mentioned therapist.
I have asked for ideas of things to work with Evan at home anyways.
The ABA therapist have done fine motor skills evaluations with Evan and he does ok..but, by my request will do more with him due to my concern.
I went back this evening and had a chat with the group O.t. And, she's pretty certain Evan is still "extremely behind". Even after giving her the school update.
I then e-mailed his teacher and was re-assured, again, of how well he's doing.
So, I will continually be frustrated..or we'll quit the group therapy and sit around to work on our "cutting" and "writing" skills.
I need to take some ibuprofen...it's too much..
You could let him go to group therapy so he will still have time with the other boys. My guess is that her evaluation is wrong, since no one else agrees, so don't let her get to you. If she starts to have a negative effect on Evan, then work on cutting and writing at home. At four years old, how much do they expect them to be able to cut and write? Isn't this a little early to stress a kid, and parent out over it?
ReplyDeleteI agree with Teresa. He is in PreK and it takes time, huge transition for our kids and us. Our kids learn different skills at different times. Wyatt is still learning what Evan is learning yet he is talking more. Yes, he does need to learn those skills and he will, they both do. Jesse was in the same situation at Wyatt and Evans age and today he is writing, reading, cutting, to progress in Grade one. Yet, he is more non verbal than Wyatt. I understand the pressure, listen to those that encourage you as a mom. Time is precious in our domain. YOu are precious and an amazing mom!
ReplyDeleteDon't worry too much about it. Tom's still crap at colouring, but improving steadily. Jeanette is very point blank about stuff, but, she's a good OT. If she's saying that his skills are behind, just use it as an opportunity to ask for them to do more OT. Keep in mind that schools are always on the conservative side because they are also the ones providing services and there's a cost to them for that. We work on Tom's pen skills with the kumon workbooks that I laminate and he uses a dry erase marker with. Try those kind of things, low effort, but good practice. Trish is right though, they will all get there in the end. Don't leave the group, Evan needs the social interaction (and Tom would miss him!) and it's just another opportunity to practice the fine motor stuff and for you to have an hour off ;)
ReplyDeleteHey, I thought I posted a comment..but it didn't post..lol..I don't know how to post on my own wall..!! Anyways, no I won't be taking him out of group..I was more being sarcastic than anything else..! But, really the school is trying to contact her, because they are "strongly" disagreeing..and more because Evan is waffling this..and I am a bit concerned that she is in a room with three boys who are more interested in playing..and giving such a strong evaluation, without having one on one time with him. I do understand the school board might not want to over-evaluate..but, really they are all in opposition...and want to get it straightened out, so we can be all on the same page. Thank you ladies for posting, and for your encouraging words and thoughtfulness..! Teresa, you are right, no mom should have to be this stressed out over their four year old..!!
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